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A virtuous death

A few nights after Robin Williams died, John and I sat down and watched James Lipton’s magnificent Inside the Actors’ Studio interview, originally aired on June 10, 2001. It wasn’t the first time; both the show and that particular interview were old favorites, but it took on a special poignancy then. By…

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How to fall in love

One of the unexpected aspects of being suddenly single is that I’m finding myself thinking a lot about relationships – the variety of shapes they can take, what it means to be a partner, what I’d want if and when I go down that road again. I learned a lot…

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Visibility and subtext

I have finished Gentleman Jole and the Red Queen, and I have THOUGHTS and FEELINGS (because of course I do, because Cordelia Vorkosigan) that I need to sit on for a day or two before posting. (note: very mild spoilers below; the next post will be spoiler-heavy.)

But inevitably, one of the things that this book stirred up was a lot of thoughts and feelings on the subject of romantic subplots and sexual diversity in genre literature, and writing sexually diverse characters, and queering tropes and genre conventions. Gentleman Jole is pretty much the polar opposite of Hexslinger in tone, in this regard (quiet, mature, and bemused, as opposed to, ah, raucous, bawdy, and full-speed-ahead-damn-the-torpedoes)*, and my reactions to whatever I’m reading at the moment are often so, so intensely shaped by whatever I read just previously.


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Emotional uncluttering

A long time ago, a girlfriend gave me a throw pillow. It was decorated with metallic thread and sequins, and it was pretty, but also too small to be anything but decorative, and it was scratchy, and didn’t go with anything I owned. It was very obviously a (G)ift, picked…

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